Skip navigation! Story from Sex. Anal sex is low-key very high maintenance. In theory, all you have to do is put a penis or object into someone's anus — but that doesn't always go smoothly, literally and figuratively. Foreplay is extra important, if not mandatory, when you're having anal sex, because you have to get the anus ready for penetration. One non-negotiable anal sex foreplay step? Here are some foreplay ideas that will help make anal sex feel way better, according to Lilla, Rachel Needle , PsyD, licensed psychologist and director of Modern Sex Therapy Institutes, and Francie Stone , PsyD, certified sex therapist.
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Maybe you've always wanted to try it but feel nervous about taking the plunge. Or maybe anal is already part of your sex routine and you're looking for tips to make it even hotter. Or maybe you're just curious to know what backdoor sex is really like. Whether you're an anal virgin or a die-hard fan, you'll want to keep reading: We talked to sex experts Jessica O'Reilly, Ph. Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship , to get answers to all of your butt sex-related questions. Yes, she says that for some people, some of those things may be true. Research suggests that pain is common, especially in the beginning. However, it definitely doesn't have to hurt—and there are ways to make it pleasurable, not painful. Get yourself all riled up and excited in your usual reliable manner, and then return to anal play. Then, she says, it's all about starting slowly.
What Does Anal Sex Feel Like?
Contrary to myths, anal sex, when done right, feels great and can lead to powerful orgasms for both men and women. Its not surprising that most people do not find that pleasurable. The best anal sex happens when a person who receives it, truly enjoys it! It may take some emotional unplugging pun intended to free yourself from these feelings. Anal sex can be a messy experience both emotionally and physically. It takes a certain kind of maturity to have anal sex.
Skip navigation! Story from Sex. Ashley Ross. Anal sex can be one of three things: terrifying, terrible, or terrific. Step away from the porn, and set aside your worries and fears about the back door. All you need is this step-by-step guide to having comfortable, communicative, and mutually satisfying anal sex, which we'll be updating regularly. Click through, then go forth without fear — and have fun! The gap between what we learned in sex ed and what we're learning through sexual experience is big — way too big. So we're helping to connect those dots by talking about the realities of sex, from how it's done to how to make sure it's consensual, safe, healthy, and pleasurable all at once.
