I t started with pictures he would take—one of me, my face obscured by a swirl of brown hair, rubbed-red skin, a beaded necklace around my neck. At the time, we thought the photo was classy, artful. I was nineteen years old; Matt was my first real boyfriend.
Why Do People Make Sex Tapes?
While pornography has basically been around since humans could scrawl drawings of naked people onto rock faces, sex tapes are only as old as handheld, cheaply available video recording technology. Camcorders certainly made sex tapes possible for the average person, but they only became widespread with the popularization of the smartphone. That just meant being able to videotape your sex life was no more complicated than taking a picture of your lunch. They get off on watching themselves or their partner experience sexual pleasure. Other people are exhibitionists who want to be watched and making a sex tape can be a great way to do that. And still others who may also fall into one of the other categories want to make money from their own amateur porn. Instead, you should talk to the person or people you want to shoot with and see how they feel first.
Man A: A recent partner and a mutual friend of ours. Why did you want to make a sex tape? Woman A: A friend of mine had made a sex tape, and her experience sounded thrilling. Hearing about it from her made it feel like it wasn't such a scandalous thing to do.
There are a lot of things you'll try at least once, especially between the sheets. But documenting your sex life for you and your partner's viewing pleasure later? It sounds sexy and fun, but is it really? And more importantly, is it worth the risk of maybe accidentally being uploaded to the mysterious cloud? We asked four women who actually tried it to enlighten us about why they hit record, if it was as steamy as they hoped, and what their reaction was when they watched it.